POSITIVE CRITICISM AND ME!

IF you do not have potential to listen positive criticism then their is no such traits as improvement in you. -AISHA NOOR

Me, myself and I have been always focused on one thing that is a personal improvement. I always focused on personal improvement on three bases.

1. My origin

2. Why am I here?

3. Does my presence matter?

Being a human being we ask such questions to ourselves sometimes when we hear questions such as what do you want from your life And by this people mean that what is your goal and that eventually means what you expect as a professional but this idea of self-improvement and positive criticism comes to my mind when I was sitting at a bus stop in a journey to Islamabad to give my MCAT test. A boy sitting to the opposite seat section was staring at my book I was reading at that time, to mention that it was an academic book of biology and he asked me breaking the silence, you want to become a doctor, and I said yes! And he said “Why?” and I replied with a pause “because that is what is the goal of my life” and he asked again “what do you understand by the goal of your life” I replied “Goal is something that you live for, the deepest desire or the way you contribute in the society” and this time he had an apparent smile on his face and he asked again “So do you think that you are not contributing in the society now?” and this time I was highly confused I nodded in yes and he said “ That is why people don’t contribute in the society” he answered with a suspicious smile and I was highly confused and then he stood and started to fill a glass of water from a nearby dispenser saying these words

“Students as you are told that they are not capable of contributing in the society until they become a doctor or an engineer but trust me dear you are mistaken you are struggling for being someone forgetting that you already are someone and if you think that you are not contributing in the society you are highly mistaken you are studying you are already contributing I wish you good luck but if you, unfortunately, couldn’t get selected always remember that you are already contributing and you already are someone” And he goes out of the waiting room.

At that time I was a bit annoyed by such conversation but his words saved my life, he make me feel that I am already being someone and I don’t have to prove it, I don’t have to become a doctor or an engineer simply because one day I will give back to society what I have received I am already giving it in. That day and today where I stand as international relations student I stand by with confidence and motivation that positive criticism plays a vital role in developing confidence.

Days before a friend of mine whom I was very much attached said at some point “you can’t be loyal to someone, you are loyal to those whom you are with at the very moment” and this point hit me hard and I asked myself “Really! Am I that person who is not loyal” and I texted a friend of mine to ask whether that statement suits me and that friend of mine replied me “No, you behave with people as they are” and just because your perspective of seeing me as a half-empty glass couldn’t wipe the reality of my glass to be half-filled so I am a piece of imperfect but yes it is imperfectly perfect. And yes! Let me know if you learn any good thing from my experience.